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My gorgeous man, Steve, has written a Guest Post for me sharing with you what it is like to be a Blouse (a bloggers spouse). Can you see why he makes me laugh, and smile, and giggle like a school girl….
My name is Steve and I’m the partner/fiancé/man (whatever the modern term is) of the lovely woman who writes this blog. A little while ago she asked if I wouldn’t mind contributing a post on what it’s like living with a crazy, manic blogger who almost continually talks about page views, Twitter, Facebook and all those other things I have absolutely no understanding of.
At first I wasn’t sure about contributing, I like to keep a fairly low online profile. (Big Brother is watching, don’t you know) But after thinking about it a bit more I thought it might be useful to share what it’s like being with a (hardcore) blogger.
First off, let me say, I have learnt a LOT! I never realised this world of blogging was so complex, what with all the statistics, social media, and a peculiar kind of electronic cross-pollination of accounts and posts and bloggers that goes on behind the scenes.
It’s this whole world that you don’t really know exists if you’re just a casual Internet surfer like myself. But the other thing that struck me was, generally speaking, what a supportive environment it is.
If asked before, I would have thought it would be a very competitive sphere, with people trying to outdo everyone else’s blogs, trade secrets left right and centre, and industrial espionage abounding! But it’s not like that at all.
People seem to swap ideas, help each other out with coding and techniques and give really constructive, well-meant (and well taken) criticism. I know Krystal has made many new connections online, some that may even turn into actual, real-world associations, and I think that’s just amazing.
I have to admit when my gorgeous girl first floated the idea of a blog I was a bit hesitant. I thought maybe it would take time away from us, thought perhaps it would become all-consuming, was sure it would turn out to be stressful and more of a chore than an enjoyment. But so far anyway, I’m very wrong.
True, Krystal does spend more time on the Mac (and phone and PC) and a lot of our conversations now revolve around bloggy stuff. But it hasn’t affected our relationship at all, nor the dynamics of our family. I feel very included in things, being asked opinions on styling for her pages, editing of posts, and I’ve even learnt (the very basics) of DSLR photography!
Alexander too, has very much become part of proceedings. I swear, he must be the most photographed kid I’ve ever known! I feel overall this little (but growing) blog has been a positive addition to our world.
The joy, challenges and I guess personal validation and growth I can see in Krystal makes me realise how important this is for her. I’ve seen her expand in both knowledge and confidence. Just this morning she mentioned some long term goals for her work within the blogosphere which I’ve gotta admit, kinda blew me away.
To see the person you love evolve to be so passionate and confident about her abilities is truly a wonderful thing, and I mean to encourage this as much as I’m able.
I’ve come to the conclusion, and I hope I don’t sound too dramatic, that blogging is more than just a hobby or pastime, it’s pretty much a lifestyle. Or at the very least, an evolution of your existing lifestyle. There’s always ‘maintenance’ to do. When we drive to the nearest big city, Krystal is in the passenger seat with her smartphone tap-tap-tapping away.
I’ve become used to the various chirps and chimes and dongs and goodness knows what else, signalling there’s something happening somewhere in social media.
The bedroom occasionally lights up in the dead of night, with notifications or messages coming in from friends way across the other side of the world where it’s daytime for them. We watch TV with the Apple Mac close by, my girl has this incredible ability to seemingly be able to do two things at once.
Seriously, I’ve seen her type one thing at a million miles an hour while simultaneously looking at me and talking about something completely different. That’s multitasking on steroids, as far as I’m concerned! I wonder if it’s a blogger thing, or a female thing… Anyway, all this might sound terribly intrusive, but it’s actually not.
We talk about stuff Krystal is adding to her site. I’m asked opinions on photos and fonts, and I’m sure our collective vocabulary has expanded considerably. For instance, I never would have used the word ‘considerably’ before.
Perhaps the hardest part for me, and I’m sure many other ‘blogging spouses’ (or ‘blouses’) out there, is the fact that a certain portion of your life is out there for anyone to see. I guess in a way this can be a good or bad thing, and can be manipulated so that what comes across online bears little or no resemblance to what life is actually like.
But at the beginning Krystal (with my full support) made the decision to be honest about what she writes. We were worried initially as to what people who knew us might think, but soon came to the opinion it didn’t matter.
We want people to connect with us because they like us warts and all, not a photoshopped, misconstrued version of us. We decided that what you see is what you get, and I think that’s very important for the integrity of the blog. We may not post everything that happens, but what is there is honest and true.
So I guess this totally analogue guy has kinda been digitally converted. Well, a little anyway. I’m getting used to the idea there are photographs of me online, this post means there will be something I’ve written on the Net, and I still don’t understand the attraction of Facebook. But I’m okay with that, just as I’m okay with my girl being a blogger.
For us, I believe the pro’s have by far outweighed the con’s and to be honest I can’t imagine what our life would be like now without blogging. (and the frequent sound of Facebook notifications, keyboard tapping, Twitter messages, Pinterest complexities, statistical analysis, marketing talk…..)