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How To Maintain a Sense Of Self In Your Relationship

When you're starting a new relationship it's easy to dive right in, but we forget to maintain our sense of self. Here's some simple ways to stay 'you'.

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Relationships are wonderful things. They can empower and inspire us, they can bring us joy and they can challenge us. They are even one of the elements on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs… There’s no doubt they provide us with intimacy, they make us feel loved and wanted and they can motivate us to achieve our wildest dreams…

But this strange thing happens when a relationship starts. We go from being single and often confident in ourselves to being in a relationship and totally vulnerable.

Now don’t get me wrong – being completely vulnerable with someone is an amazing aspect of a relationship and has it’s own benefits. Another topic for another day perhaps. But what I’m more referring to today is how we can so easily become lost in another person’s identity.

It happens without us even realising it. You go from being ‘Kate’ to ‘Kate and Tim’. You’re not even referred to as your own self anymore – you are you, plus someone else.

So with all of this happening, how do we maintain a sense of self in our relationships? How do we hold on to the traits we love about ourselves and keep true to who we are?

When you're starting a new relationship it's easy to dive right in, but we forget to maintain our sense of self. We need to keep true to who we were before the relationship. Here's some simple ways to stay 'you'.

Make Time For Yourself

You’ve gone from spending a fair chunk of time on your own to spending (and wanting to spend) all your time with your new hunk. This is perfectly understandable. They are all you can think about, you love spending time with them and you just want to be around them all the time.

It’s so important that you still schedule in some ‘me’ time. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. It can be as simple as going to your favourite café with a magazine and sitting there for an hour drinking coffee and eating cake.

Remember Your Friends and Family

One of the things we tend to do when we start a new relationship is disappear. We don’t plan as many outings with friends or dinners with the family because we are so involved in our new relationship.

We also tend to spend a lot of time talking about our new relationship with our friends and family when we do catch up with them. While our friends and family are usually quite happy for us, it’s also important that we are still there for them.

Take some time to schedule in a catch up with your friends and family and make sure you ask them how they are going and what’s happening in their lives.

Encourage Your New Partner To Join In On Your Hobbies 

While most men wouldn’t call shoe shopping a hobby, perhaps there’s something you love to do that they haven’t tried before. This is a great way to keep up with what you love and engage your new partner in your hobbies too – rather than doing whatever it is they want to do.

Perhaps you like seeking out buskers on a Saturday morning or hitting the local fresh produce markets. Maybe you like going for a hike or going to yoga. Let him choose what he wants to join in on. Then make sure you do the same for him.

Just taking this little bit of time to yourself can make all the difference in the balance of your relationship.

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