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How To Fake It When You’re A New Blogger

Are you a new blogger that feels like you're way out of your depth? You're not the only one. I was there too. This is how you can fake it when you're a new blogger (even though most of us still feel like we're faking it!!).

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There are times when I really feel like I’m pretending. You see, I’m now part of this incredibly community. One that is full of kindness, praise and support. One that is full of amazing stories and full of wonderfully educated people. One that is full of success… and that’s the part where I feel like I’m faking it…

In November 2014 I decided to start a blog. I had started a few over the years before but never really kept them going. This time I had something important I wanted to share. I had learned such a valuable lesson in life and I wanted others to know it was okay.

I had learned that not everything in life goes to plan, not everything we want happens the way we want it and that not everything is perfect. But above all of that, I learned that if we have our health, our happiness and each other, then life is perfect enough.

So I set up my little corner of the Internet and started telling stories. I shared my opinions and experiences with no one in particular… I just knew I felt better when I had put my thoughts into writing. I became immersed in the world of blogging and sought out all information I could find. I would spend hours and hours reading though blogs about blogging, blogs about bloggers and any piece of information I could get my eyes on.

And then I did a dangerous thing… I started comparing my blog with others. And from there my insecurities grew!! I was over the moon if I had 40 people read my blog in one day but I was reading of bloggers who had thousands of views a day!

Some of them had only just started their blog too (mind you, I later learned that a lot of these were second or third or tenth blogs for these people and they had a really good handle on what they were doing already and a tribe that already followed them!!).

Never compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.

 I worked harder and harder on my blog. I had a clear idea of what I wanted it to look like so I taught myself html at first when I was on Blogger, then later moved to WordPress.org because it was what all the professionals were recommending. That meant learning CCS… then realising that messing up a tiny bit of code gives you the white screen of death, an anxiety attack and makes you thank your hosting company a million times over for backing up your website for you.

What makes someone a real blogger? Numbers, stats, income, time blogging? As my blog starts to gain traction I feel like I have to fake it as a blogger...

My blog became my second full time job… and an unpaid one at that.

Now, 6 months later, my blog is starting to gain some traction and to be honest, it scares me.

I’ve been approached by companies for advertising, by other bloggers for advice and by massive blogging networks wanting to promote my work. It feels a little surreal and for the large part, it feels like I’m faking it as a blogger.

It’s hard to explain… I’ve worked so hard to achieve all of this, but because there are no hard and fast rules, no guideline or structure on how you’re supposed to be doing things, it’s difficult to work out if what you’re doing is right.

There are some really big heavy hitters out there in the blogging world. Some absolutely amazing people, and I worry I’m not good enough to actually call myself a blogger.

When people ask me what I do, I still don’t add in that I’m a blogger. One day I hope to – one day I hope I feel like I’m legitimate enough to be classed as a ‘blogger’. The thing is… I’m not quite sure what level I need to be at before I can call myself a blogger….

I’m heading to a pretty big blogging conference in less than 10 weeks and I’m really nervous. There will be people there with much bigger blogs than mine, and also people with newer ones. I’m working on gaining some confidence in myself and in my blog before then to help me feel like I belong there.

So for all the bloggers out there, tell me – Do you ever feel like you fake it as a blogger? When did you feel like you weren’t faking it anymore and you were a ‘real’ blogger?

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28 Comments

  1. I totally feel you! When I start my first blog I was so happy that people read it, but I didn’t want them to know who I am. Even when on day my cousin say to me that she read my blog and It’s great, I didn’t even want to talk about it (not because I didn’t believe in it, but just that feeling “I am not a blogger jet”). My first step was to say “thank you” or something similar. Now I’m more confident, and define myself as blogger, but there is still a little strange feeling… Maybe this is just path for many bloggers to go through. 🙂

  2. i fake it every single day, and am always taken by surprise when people comment on my knowledge.

    Look forward to finally meeting you at the conference!

  3. I love this post. I think every now and then we compare our blogs to other people’s blogs as well our failures to their successes. We all have the same goals but how we get there and when we get there is completely different. I remember one blogger told me “We define or own worth as bloggers” I mention to people I blog though I get confused looks and no quite understand however I still feel a bit insecure about it because people think you can’t really go anywhere with it and it’s not realistic. After joining a few blogging groups, growing my knowledge in blogging, and growing my blog with chances to work with companies. I realized that I’m passionate about blogging I enjoy it. So that makes me a blogger. I think the definition of what a blogger is, is different for everyone.

  4. Hahaha….i can totally relate! Im still a beginner without a huge follow however i have my big blogging dreams that im hoping one day will come true!

  5. i am in the process of starting a new blog. I have only 8 posts and am trying to figure out all of the details. I have spent hours and hours researching and learning and have so much more to figure out. I went live with it but haven’t told anyone about it.

    How many posts do I need to have before I start promoting it? I’m just too nervous about putting myself out there. I feel like a fraud, for no good reason.

    1. Congratulations on your new blog!! I can completely relate with being nervous about putting yourself out there – it can feel quite vulnerable. I started promoting right from the start… I wanted to build a community early on. However, I also had a big story to tell about my son’s NICU journey which helped to get my blog out there. What do you blog about? You can start promoting whenever you want – if you feel like you need to have more posts then wait until you’re ready – the last thing you want is to feel like you’re editing yourself when you write. There’s no set number and no set answer – it’s one of the best and most frustrating things about blogging. You get to make your own rules. 😉

  6. I started my blog back in January, I started one a few years ago but I never really followed through with it. I’m super excited because I’m hoping my blog will pass over 2500 page views total this weekend. My blog is all about my sewing adventures and a little bit about my life in general thrown in. I’m think I’ve got the regular posting thing down pat but I need to work on getting it out there on social media a bit more. I’ll get there on day. Maybe when I get some holidays to work on it. 🙂

    1. Make sure you have your goals set and celebrate when you hit them – it makes all the difference. There are days when I feel on top of the world and days when I feel like I’m faking it – but if you keep at it, the faking days seem less and less now. xo

  7. I feel the exact same. I just started this year and I feel like such a failure! I never get comments I don’t even know where you would go to start making any money. Amazon affiliates canceled me because no one was using it. I have another part-time job, love to write and wish I could see some light at the end of the tunnel but no such luck. I hear that it takes years and I guess I shouldn’t look at it as a monetary thing but I’m also 51 years old and I feel like it’s just never going to work for me. I’m using all the social media to get my blog out there but maybe it’s my content. Need advice! 🙁 http://www.lifeaftermom.com

    1. The best advice I can give you is that you need to find what works for you. Don’t stress about Amazon, they cancelled my account too because I hadn’t had any sales. It just means that’s not what my readers are wanting from my site. Research your audience more – find what they love, where do they spend their time, what is important to them. Then give that to them!! Write with passion and with heart and your content will always be amazing. Also explore the idea of moving from Blogger to WordPress.org if monetisation is something you are after. In addition – I can see you have Twitter and Facebook as your social media, have you also got Pinterest and Instagram profiles. These are two very visually based mediums and Pinterest is incredible for driving traffic to your blog. Hope this helps. xo

  8. I love your honesty here. You just said what I’m afraid to say outloud. I think it hardest to tell my friends that I have a blog or that “I’m a blogger” I guess I want them to like it and when they don’t say anything I try to assume they are just too busy to read .
    I feel like I’m In The world I’ve always wanted to be a part of but I can’t say I’m a blogger yet. I have a new blog that is growing . I work on it like a full time unpaid job, but I love writing and the whole experience!

    1. I’ve only just started saying that I’m a blogger, and only to a few people. I feel like I have to validate myself though – and say that people actually do read what I write… blogging is such a foreign concept for so many people – they don’t realise that so many of the websites they visit are actually blogs!! It’s so nice you’ve found your people!! The world you’ve always wanted to be part of. I understand that so much. I’ve always wanted to be a writer, but I never found a medium that clicked. Until I fell in love with blogging. Big kudos to working on your blog like a full time job – that’s the dedication I love to see (I spend around 50 – 60 hours a week on mine!!). I can already tell how passionate you are 🙂 xo

    1. Somedays the comparison thing is really bad – other’s I feel like ‘hell yeah – who cares I’m just doing my own thing…’ It comes and goes in cycles 🙂 Keep working on it and your confidence will grow!

  9. I absolutely love this! I think this topic can really resonate with any blogger, whether new or old. There is no formula for success in the blogging world. I mean what works for someone to gain traction may fail for another! And it’s super scary when things start picking up because it’s so fast paced and you’re just one person.

    Good luck on your blogging journey! I love reading your blog + I see your posts come up often on Pinterest. (:

    – Juliet from http://www.thelittlejewelsoflife.com

    1. Thank you so much Juliet – I love ‘meeting’ a fellow creative who loves helping others 🙂 You’re totally right – there is no formula for success, you just have to find what works for you. And what works for you one week may not work for you the next. It’s ever changing and always growing and that’s what makes it all so exciting!! <3

  10. I love this post! As a newbie blogger I definitely feel this way right now! I do have an idea of where I want my blog to go but there are a lot of bumps getting there. Thank you for this inspiring post, I often feel like I am going to be lost for a while, but it´s good to know there are others out there that feel similar.

    1. I honestly still feel lost… it’s full on and crazy and I sometimes wonder how on earth I do this but then I receive comments from wonderful people like you and am reminded that people really do care and all of this effort is definitely worth it. Your blog looks lovely and I found your post about Christmas Traditions in Iceland to be really interesting. <3

  11. thank you so much for writing this. i started my blog a few months ago, and still have a long ways to go. i love reading that we all go through the same “growing pains”.

    1. I think the ‘growing pains’ are always around… each time my blog takes a bit of a leap in size I get the same feelings all over again. I’ve just learned a few more positive ways of dealing with them. We are all in this together and there is plenty of internet space to go around <3

  12. I’m just starting my blog and I must say, your post is really helping me. While reading this, I feel very motivated at maintaining it and just posting even though I don’t know if people can actually read it.

    Keep it up! 🙂

    1. That’s the key… you just have to keep going. Keep writing as your number one priority and promote as much as you can. If you need any help with anything please feel free to email me – krystal@. I’d love to help 🙂 And trust me – while it may only be a handful of people reading your blog at the start, that handful of people will quickly grow and it will feel amazing 🙂

  13. Thank you for sharing such an honest account – I’m setting myself goals and trying hard like you did and get the same insecurities all the time! You’ve given me some hope in your post though so thank you ☺

    1. Thank you so much for sharing. I believe we will always have runs of insecurities, but over time we learn how to conquer those insecurities faster and build ourselves up more. Keep setting your goals and working towards everything you want – you’re already an amazing Lady Boss!! <3

  14. Loved this post so much — thank you for posting it. I am just starting out and constantly feel discouraged when I see income reports at two months in! This is such a wonderful perspective that we all need to keep reminding ourselves.

    xox Anna

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