10 Stupid Things I Said Before I Became A Parent

Before I became a parent I said a lot of stupid things. I had absolutely no idea. I'm sure every parent can relate (and probably said them too).

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We all know it’s true. When we are young, single and have no children we have a very different view on the world. It’s easy to sit there from our high horse and pass judgement on others. It’s easy to look on at the mother with the children throwing a tantrum at the grocery store and say ‘my children will never do that’ (newsflash: yes, yes they will) and to see a child eating a donut and think ‘why aren’t they eating a healthy snack – my children will only eat healthy’ (again: no, no they won’t).

I said a lot of stupid things before I became a parent. I’m sure you did too. So I thought I’d share with you some comic relief for the parents out there and perhaps a little insight for those who are yet to have children of their own. Here’s my top 10 stupid things I said before I became a parent.

Before I became a parent I said a lot of stupid things. I had absolutely no idea. I'm sure every parent can relate (and probably said them too).


1 – I’ll just sleep when the baby sleeps.

This is probably a great idea firstly if your baby sleeps, secondly if your baby sleeps for longer than 20 minutes and finally if you have those magical house fairies that do all of your housework for you. Not only did I have a baby that decided he didn’t want to sleep, he also had crazy reflux, which meant I had a ton of washing (thanks to vomit being on everything!!). I finally worked out that if I wore him in a baby carrier I could actually get some housework done while he slept peacefully (sleeping upright meant less reflux) but I definitely did not get to sleep when he did.

2 – I will only feed my children whole, organic food that is nutritious and well balanced.

Okay, to be honest, I still aim to achieve this, but I no longer beat myself up when it doesn’t happen. Teething children are monsters and when your child is refusing to eat because their gums hurt then you give them whatever food you need to in order to get by. My son lived on sausages and mashed potato for days because that was all he would eat. Don’t ever judge another parent for what they are feeding their kids – you have no idea of their story or why they are doing it.

3 – My children will never be allowed to watch television or use any technology.

Hmmm… did I really say this? Yes, I did. To be clear – I don’t endorse you sitting your child in front of a television all day but I am yet to meet a toddler who would actually sit still for long enough to watch a whole program anyway. I love relaxing days watching a movie and having cuddles with my son. We often put on a Wiggles DVD and get up and dance together and as for technology, my son at 20 months knows how to unlock my phone and take selfies. He even says ‘selfie’. He learns so much by watching what I am doing and what others are doing and I don’t think this is a bad thing at all. He is learning, he is engaged and he is happy. PS – I also have a DVD player in the car…

4 – My career will always be important to me and I won’t lose who I am when I become a mum.

Wrong!!! As soon as my son was born I would have happily walked away from my career as a Paramedic if I needed to. Prior to becoming a mum my job was everything to me, it was such a major part of who I was. Now I have a much better job being a mum and nothing comes before that.

5 – I will never let myself look like one of ‘those’ mums and I will always take pride in my appearance.

I have lost count of the number of times I have quickly ducked out to the shops without even realising I had food/vomit/snot/milk/poop on my shirt. There have been days when brushing my hair was a major achievement. Most of the time, especially when Alexander was younger, I would have around 5 minutes to get myself ready and whatever I achieved in those 5 minutes was it, it was a bonus if that included make-up. I certainly still present myself as best as I can but I no longer think I have to be dressed up to the nines to leave the house.

6 – I will teach my children to behave and they will never have public tantrums – I just won’t tolerate it.

Bahahahahahahaha. This one makes me laugh. I don’t know how I thought I was going to be able to control my children in this way but somehow I figured I would. Children are highly emotional and they are still learning how to express those emotions. Usually, this expression comes in the form of a tantrum of some sort, and more often than not it is in a very public place with people watching on and judging. I learned very quickly to ignore these people – no I do not care what you think of my child’s tantrum and I care even less about what you think of my parenting skills and no, I do not want your advice. Thank you.

7 – If my child becomes upset in public then I will stop whatever I am doing and just go home. It’s what they need.

It just took me two hours and four arguments to get out the door so I could come and get the groceries we need so we don’t just have jam and eggs in the fridge. I am definitely not turning around and going home now just because of one little tantrum. Albeit, I learned quickly when the highly emotional times were and avoided them. Attempting to do groceries at 5pm, during Witching Hour (ask any parent, they know) is just asking for trouble, as is attempting to shop immediately before nap time. Just don’t do it.

8 – My children will fit into my lifestyle and I won’t sacrifice my social life just because I am a mum.

I truly believed this one. I was determined to make sure I would still go to lunches and dinners with friends and tried to hold onto the social life I had before Alexander came along. It’s just not possible. And that’s okay. When you have a hungry baby you have to stop whatever you are doing to feed them, when you have a tired baby they need to nap and when you have a cranky teething child you need to do whatever it is you can to comfort them. Your children come first – always.

9 – My children will have a limited number of toys and I will make sure they are used well.

For Alexander’s first birthday he was given so many toys it was incredible. This is something you can’t control. I don’t believe that requesting certain gifts is appropriate – if someone takes the time to choose something that they think Alexander would like then that is special and meaningful. To avoid ‘present overload’ we allowed Alexander to play with a few of his toys from his birthday and put the rest up in the cupboard – every few weeks we get another toy down and this way he focuses on that toy and gets to play with it. It’s now 9 months later and we are still getting down new toys…

10 – My children will eat whatever I cook and if they refuse then they will go without.

Seriously? Firstly, refer to point #2… and then remember that this does not only apply to teething children. There will come a time when your child continues to refuse to eat the healthy meal you put in front of them that has a perfect balance of meat and vegetables and will continue to throw their food on the floor. You will beg them… just one bite… please. You’ll try every type of ‘game’ to get them to eat. You’ll even resort to tricking and bribing them. It won’t work. In then end they will just keep asking for toast and at some point you’ll give in. Hey… at least they’re eating right?

I seriously don’t know what kind of delusional world I was living in but becoming a parent has certainly changed the way I view a lot of things. I may not be perfect but my son is happy, healthy and growing so I must be doing something right…


  1. Haha! I remember telling a friend that if her baby bit her while nursing, she should just flick him on the nose! Yep. Then I had 3 babies, all of whom at some point bit me while nursing (teething, startled, agitated…), and realized how ridiculous it would be to hit a sweet baby for doing something completely natural! We also said that our kids would only eat while sitting properly at the table…

    1. I still try the whole ‘only eat while sitting properly at the table’… I try for about 5 minutes then give in because I have learned to pick my battles… this is not one I want to argue about!! That’s very funny about the biting while breastfeeding. Thanks for sharing!! xo

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